Listening to more of that biography of Diana.

It�s made me realize that internal torture can be just as bad, if not worse, than external torture. Internal torture is not tangible, and it occurs inside someone�s head. That makes it too easy to dismiss, I think. Especially in this highly skeptical culture, where most people refuse to believe things, unless they see them with their own eyes.

The other thing about it occurring inside someone�s head, is that it suggests that the person has to be involved somehow, as a viewer. The person has to give audience to the torture for it to happen. I�m not saying that makes it simple. Sometimes it can feel like someone holding your hand to a hot stove and telling you to learn to ignore the pain. Any normal person would say, �Let go of my hand, and I won�t have to learn how to ignore it!�

Feels like. While that�s the perception, there is still some element of control over internal pain, even when someone else is the cause of the pain. With the majority of people, that element of control is very, very slight, and usually comes with age and practice. With younger people, that�s an incredibly high expectation.

I only mention it because I am a veteran of internal torture, and I�ve been there. I am still there, in many ways.

Another realization I�ve had is that some people just need more nurturing than others. I suppose this is obvious to anyone who has had actual familial type relationships with multiple people, at once. I never have, but that�s not the point.

Some people just need more. Those who need to be nurtured more aren�t bad people. They didn�t ask to be who they are, anymore than anyone else did. It�s like being born with brown hair or blue eyes, I think. It just happens.

It�s sort of a weird situation for all of us. I think that we generally judge others with the same standards in which we judge ourselves, but we�re all so very different. We are all capable of extraordinary things. Some of us can�t reach our full potential without the help and love of others. Should we condemn them for that, or give them the tools they need to succeed?

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